Doa for Patience, Perseverance & Steadfastness

رَبَّنَا وَلاَ تُحَمِّلْنَا مَا لاَ طَاقَةَ لَنَا بِهِ وَاعْفُ عَنَّا وَاغْفِرْ لَنَا وَارْحَمْنَآ أَنتَ مَوْلاَنَا فَانصُرْنَا عَلَى الْقَوْمِ الْكَافِرِينَ

Our Lord! Impose not on us that
which we have not the strength to bear,
grant us forgiveness and have mercy
on us. You are our Protector. Help us
against those who deny the truth.

(al-Baqarah :286)

 

Some Ways to Relieve Stress

· Determine how real the actual stressor is by assessing the worst possible outcome, then determine the manageability of this outcome. Accept it if necessary, change it if possible

· Take 2-3 deep breaths, exhale through your mouth, and let jaw and shoulders fall while you are exhaling

· Imagine a wave of warmth flowing down your arms and legs with each breath you exhale

· Verbalize a positive self-statement

· Get enough sleep so that you awaken naturally with an alarm

· Exercise for at least 30 minutes every other day

· Pampered yourself at spa. Massaging is good to relax your tense muscles

· Nurture the healthy, social; relationships with others who is important to you in your life

· Temporary avoidance of the problem or  distraction but never run away from it for the rest of your life

· Pray or seek guidance from  Allah…

PATIENCE IN DEALING WITH INFERTILITY

During our difficult times, we are prone to be illogical and commit wrong doing. As infertility is stressful, it is important for us as Muslim to be patient and believe that there is wisdom behind it.  We should bear in mind that all problems is the test from Him:

“On no soul doth Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear. ”

                                       (Al-Baqarah:286)

Allah tests everybody through the difficulties with which they can cope. Thus, if people experience   problems, it is a certain truth that Allah has given them the strength to endure patiently.  Hence, it depends on us to develop the strength to face the problem and overcome it.

Individual with tranquil heart will accept all test with patience in which then will give positive impact in their daily life. In contrast, individual who always in bad mood or has bad attitude is prone to get stress and then could explode and harm themselves as well as to others. Picture above show the difference between a positive person and a negative person in dealing with  daily hassle. Positive person when being confronted, will remain positive. In contrast, negative person when being confronted, will easily get explode.

Stress & Infertility

Stress is defined as any event that a person perceives as threatening, and in order to protect  itself, the body responds to stressors with a classic “fight or flight” response, which nature designed to allow  survival.

Biologically, hypothalamus regulates both stress  responses as well as the sex hormones. Excessive stress may even lead to complete suppression of the menstrual cycle.  In less severe cases, it could cause irregular menstrual cycles.When activated by stress, the pituitary gland also produces increased amounts of prolactin, and elevated levels of prolactin could cause irregular ovulation which would make pregnancy impossible.

Stress can reduce sperm counts as well and also suppress libido, cause erectile dysfunction and result in a reduction in the frequency of intercourse, which in turn could also reduce fertility.

Research has shown that women undergoing treatment for infertility have often higher level of stress as women dealing with life-threatening illnesses such as cancer and heart disease. Infertile couples experience long term stress each month, first hoping that they will conceive and dealing with the disappointment if they do not.

Also, many women start overeating in response to the stress of infertility. The increased fat cells then disrupt the hormonal balance, making a bad situation even worse.

WHY INFERTILITY IS STRESSFUL?

When diagnosed with infertility, many couples feel helpless and no longer in control of their bodies or their life plan.

Stress faced by infertile couples is not necessarily emotional or psychological stress. Infertility treatment can be physically stressful as well! Blood tests; injections, ultrasound scan and surgery can be painful, awkward and embarrassing.

There is considerable financial stress too and this is acute for poor patients. Infertility treatment is expensive and this represents a major hurdle. Many patients drop out of treatment because they cannot afford it and this can be very hard to come to terms with, especially when they know they could have got pregnant, if only they could have afforded the treatment.

Some of the hormonal  medications you may need to take can also cause mood swings and emotional upsets, making it harder for you to cope with the stress. 

Ahlan wa Sahlan

Alhamdulillah..finally i managed to create my own blog. I hope that this small effort could help a lot my patient in dealing with their fertility problem. InsyaAllah... :) This blog aim to help infertility patients understand their problem & further know what is the options available for them before infertility dominates their life..